NJ Blog Takeover: Dana Insley writes about her medically-complex daughter, Abi’s, story—and how NJ’s Private Duty Nursing (PDN) program has helped her overcome her circumstances.
My 8-year-old daughter Abi had the unfortunate circumstance to be born into the wrong family. After a perfectly healthy start with her twin sister, they were saved from their parents’ abuse at two months old: broken, beaten, and shaken within an inch of their lives. After months in the hospital, we were able to bring Abi’s twin sister Gabi home to be adopted, while Abi’s condition continued: She was declared brain dead twice, was dependent on a ventilator to breathe, and we were told she was 100% deaf and blind, and that she would never eat, speak, or breathe on her own.
It took two years of fighting until we were finally able to bring her home with pediatric skilled nursing home care services—a benefit that she receives under New Jersey’s private duty nursing (PDN) program. Without this program, Abi would likely still live in a full-time skilled nursing facility today. It is because of these incredible nurses that Abi has been able to beat her original diagnosis—she is thriving at home alongside her parents, siblings, and nurses, who are like family to us. But every day remains a challenge—Abi needs round-the-clock attention for her medical complexities, and yet we are unable to fill all the nursing shifts that she is prescribed and medically authorized for. When even one shift is missed, that means that my husband and I, who are not medical experts, must act as her nurses. We often miss out on sleep, and on caring for our other children. We consistently struggle to fill five or more shifts every week, and this not only puts Abi’s health in danger, but also puts her at risk to end up back in a facility, or worse.
The problem lies in low state funding rates for the PDN program, which has not been increased in over a decade. In that same time frame, costs of living and wages for nurses in other settings, like hospitals and nursing homes, have steadily risen. Now, nurses are leaving the home care industry to take jobs at facilities where they can earn more and better support their own families. BAYADA and other home care providers struggle to hire and keep enough nurses to meet the demand, and as a result, families like mine suffer.
Abi has overcome so much, but her abusive past has left her medically-complex for life. Amongst her myriad of health issues, she is legally blind, suffers from a rare life-threatening form of epilepsy, and she requires special medical equipment to eat. This is not a child that we can simply hire a babysitter for. Her high level of care and constant need for monitoring makes it impossible to have any sense of normalcy without capable & consistent nursing support.
Abi’s nurses and their presence in our lives, have impacted our whole family. The all-consuming task of caring for a medically fragile child requires specially-trained, consistent, reliable, skilled nursing care. Her incredible nurses have become an integral part of our home and of her care. Because of her nurses’ attentive care, many health issues that have arisen have been addressed early, rather than mounting into serious ones. Her nurses have been with her through countless sicknesses, surgeries, therapies, and more doctor appointments than we could possibly count. But as home nursing wages have remained stagnant over 10+ years, we can’t blame the nurses that have had to take full-time positions elsewhere. But we are constantly hoping and praying for some relief.
No child deserves to grow up in an institution. My precious daughter brings many challenges to our home, but it would be heartbreaking to have to put her in a facility for lack of nursing support. I urge the state legislature to consider increasing funding to the PDN program. Competitive wages would bring stability to her home care nursing and allow our family and families like us to stay together and thrive. Please choose to make a difference.
-Dana Insley, Sicklerville
About the NJ Blog Takeover: For the next few weeks, Hearts for Home Care will be featuring posts authored by NJ families affected by the state’s shortage of in-home nurses and home health aides to showcase the need for increased funding for New Jersey’s Private Duty Nursing (PDN) and Personal Care Assistant (PCA) programs. For more information on how you can get involved and let your elected officials know why increased in-home nursing availability is important to you, email [email protected].